If your going to treat the fret board I'd use Dingo wax, again, I'm biased. I've used other conditioners and I just prefer the look and feel of Dingowax. We had this discussion on another thread recently, but I can't remember which one. Tonyw pointed out that the fretboards probably don't need conditioning at all aside from their natural oils and recommended a once in a while clean with something...sorry I can't remember what it was. If he doesn't follow this thread, shoot him a PM.

Pablopepper will pitch a tent regarding your use of tru-oil on the neck. I think its his preferred method of finish on the neck, I believes he sands it back to get a satin finish or something like that, I don't think he uses Tru Oil conditioning sheen oil, but again If he doesn't follow this thread, shoot him a PM.

I do ALL of my sanding by hand, to make sure its with the grain. Yeah it takes longer, but you get to talk to it and luv luv long time.

Stain is up to you. You can do what ever you want and well, if you don't like it, sand it back later and re-stain a different colour.

Good luck mate.