I think I phrased that badly. What I've been doing is Stain 1 > cure > Stain 2 > cure > Stain 3 > etc, which I thought was the right way but then started wodnering if I'm waiting too long (ie, 3 days) between stain coats and if that wait time is only supposed to be between stain and intensifier rather than stain and stain (I guess not, but waiting is hard).
Hopefully by the time the final coats are on I'll have another kit to work on and I won't mind waiting 3+ weeks before buffing.