I found my answer with a google image search.... only found one image that gave me a better idea of how the head unit should be fitting...
heres my Factory fitted locking head piece ..

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and heres the one example I found... clearly different, at least now I know how it should sit..

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Thanks Stan... Once I knew that it should make contact I knew what to look for...