OK...
the first step in "distressing" the wood is close to done. I found a great youtube video on how to take out some of the softer wood between the grains with a power drill and a brass brush (or something). took it with the grain and her are some results. Maybe gonna work on it little more to tidy the grooves up a bit or not.
next it's some banging with different tools and making some "worm holes" on appropriate places. What this type of removing wood should do is I propably won't have to use different shades of stain becaus it will soak more on the harsh grain and also create natural shadows in the cuts. all it should need is a light sanding in the end to create lighter areas on the color and grain.
I might use the same on the top of the headstock as well but not on the rest of the neck cause I want it to feel smooth to play. Just stain and sanding to look weathered.